My Best Advice: Discover who you want to spend your life with, Don’t Just Decide.
Do you think calling you 4times a day, sending you lunch, telling you he wants a serious relationship, and having sex influence or qualify him to be the right person?
Sis! hold off with that thought, it 2021 babes the game developers are still upgrading so update too.
Life happens, we are growing and naturally feel the need to have companions. Mind you! not someone you just want to have fun with but a life partner.
How do you make such a decision? Do you just decide or discover the person?
I decided who I wanted to be with when I was 18-26 base on:
- Looks/appearance
- Money/security
- Spontaneous and kind.
- How good he might be in bed.
But the truth of the matter is, my way of thinking has drastically changed and so do you.
How do I think now:
Do I just make decisions or discover?
Investment is of the essence in finding the Mr “RIGHT” in life.
YOU ARE YOUR OWN RIGHT PERSON TO TREAT YOU RIGHT,ATTRACT BEING RIGHT.
Relax and enjoy the early discovery phase without getting overly invested. And by overly invested, yes, I mean jumping in bed.
Studies show that the oxytocin that women release after having sex gets most of us emotionally attached (which is part of the magic of femininity!) That alone can muddle up this discovery phase by getting you attached too soon and relying too heavily on sexual attraction.
I met this young man on tinder, he claimed he wanted a serious partner.
As an individual, we are bounded by rules, morals, and aspiration, so we laid all on the table and concluded to study(discover) ourselves.
Two months into the relations, this man said he’s a man with hormones and cant have a relationship without sex.
Waaw! Oh yes.
Fortunately for me, my mate from university went to the same senior high with him so I decided to ask some questions about him.(discover)
This dude told me he went to Mfantsipim senior high but his mate went to St. Johns. lies.
Mr made a girl claimed he knows me, acted like he’s crushing on him to make me jealous, and told me all the properties he owes.
We want to see one of his so-called properties and took me to one dirty room thinking seeing such will make me sleep with him.
The dude went crazy because I stopped him from touching me.
Ladies be vigilant! some men will do all it takes to get what they want.
Don’t be too quick in deciding on a man but rather discover.
I’d rather you wait and get hooked after you decide a man is good, kind, and interested in the same kind of relationship as you.Look for signs that he’s trying to make you happy.
Notice how you FEEL around him. If it’s too soon to decide whether this guy is relationship material for you, hold off.
Realize that the wait IS NOT a game, rather a way to give you time to sniff out his intentions (and yours!).
If he’s relationship-minded and willing to commit, he won’t mind waiting. The wait IS about making sure he’s willing to invest in getting to know you.
If the wait is irritating to him, odds are good he wasn’t looking for the same thing. Either way, good news.
Believe me beloved, when it hot, it hot under there but don’t let your heart get over the way.
The pain, frustration, regret, and depression that comes after the emotional investment because of a wrong decision you made is harder than running away after discovering some deep secret that torments you for life.
I see men graciously wait every day. Haunt neighbors to investigate WOMEN they love to spend their lives with.
Go extra to do background checks on friends and parent(DISCOVERING NOT JUST DECISION)
Women aren’t the only ones who want to know if this is going somewhere.
Men who are relationship-ready want to know that you’re taking them seriously too. And if you’re quick to hit the sack he’ll wonder if that’s your pace with every man.
Hope with this little suggestions, you will restart your mental setting on your search for Mr.
Until we meet again next week continue to be awesome. PEACE OUT!
