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Sometimes I just don’t know why people say love is blind, but I don’t blame those who say that because they blind themselves from what their heart is seeing.there is a human that has a heart, mind, body, and soul, the body and soul helps to live, the mind helps the body to navigate and the heart helps the mind to choose what the heart is saying so what are you saying sis?

Am that one girl who doesn’t just fall in love, it takes like years to catchup when it comes to love matters.so I meet this cute guy for the first time with the girls, he dropped me off and became very close, mind you to fall in love with him was the least of my worry because he wasn’t my type but sorry because every girl falls in love with the guy he’s not her type until she becomes a woman.haha

Sooner than later, we became friends and closer than the other guys I met on that day. I think we became close because we were both free to express ourselves without any fear or panic and to me, it was a great quality of a guy, little did I know he’s suffering from victim mentality syndrome but before I dig deep let see the meaning of victim mentality.syndrome

What is the victim mentality?

Victim mentality is an acquired personality trait in which a person tends to recognize or consider themselves as a victim of the negative actions of others, and to behave as if this were the case in the face of contrary evidence of such circumstances.

However, there are genuine persons who are victims over circumstances beyond consideration but still not unrepairable.

He had actually informed me about the circumstances surrounding the death of his mum and dad, trust me never feel pity for other persons lost only when they are pitiable by genuine reasons because some seek pity just to be the victim to attract attention and care with their own agenda to drain you emotionally.

We became friends and gradually I developed some love for him but mind you there were a lot of red flags.how do you describe a guy who makes women cry and boost with it. crazy huh?

what are the victim mentality symptoms?

You can bear witness that when someone really loves and care about you, he or she respects you, your opinion, and never hesitate to settle difference but with him, it was rather the other way round. he always wants to play the victim when he has even done something wrong to you, telling him to say sorry will demand him asking you to tell him why he should say sorry, at this point he is demonstrating a victim mentality.

I remember him telling me not to be friends with those girls again after a few outings together so I ask why then does he roam with the same friends because they are also friends with these same girls.

The reality is that people with victim mentality always want to take charge of your emotions so they try to evacuate all your loved ones in order to penetrate and take charge by you giving them all your attention undividedly. The idea of the victim mentality is thrown around to people who seem to wallow in negativity and force it upon others.

• placing blame elsewhere
• making excuses
• not taking responsibility
• reacting to most life hurdles with “It’s not my fault”

What causes a victim mentality?

LONELINESS: With my ex’s case, his victim mentality was as a result of loneliness from childhood, he grew up with the grandma and he was literally given everything so one’s he sense the sneer of “not getting what he wanted, he opts for victim game.

BETRAYAL: I won’t say betrayal from his past relationship because from the look of his own behavior and actions he can claim he loves you but he careless, you are less of his priority and he can live his life for days without saying hello or hi and the funny thing is, he expects you to come back and still smile as nothing has happened and when he realized that you are being strong by ignoring him, he pops up from nowhere and plays the victim even when he has rejected or refused to replay your text for days. he simply doesn’t take responsibility for anything.

How do you stop victim mentality?

SET BOUNDARIES: Some of the stigmas around a victim mentality relates to the way people sometimes blame others for problems or guilt-trip them about things that haven’t worked out.

“You might feel constantly accused as if you’re walking on eggshells or have to apologize for situations where you feel you’re both responsible, but someone doesn’t take responsibility.

In my case, I just set emotional boundaries and ignored whatever he does. the truth of the matter is that people with a victim mentality are most emotionally weak, so they experiment their weakness on others to take their strength.

So when you avoid breaking down in front of them, they feel weak and unaccomplished. I remember one time he stood me up for more than 3 hours, drove back home, and never ask or complain, neither did I allowed him to explain himself.

I invested more time with myself, hangout myself, and happy myself without worrying or complain about any of his actions and that was actually the Malachi of our breakup.

To confirm that people with a victim mentality are weak, stop complaining, don’t cry in front of them, be strong with anything they throw at you, play the I don’t care tactics, in the end, drain you emotionally because he personally confesses how strong I am, compared to his previous relationship, the truth is that they challenge you to be strong but can’t stand you when you prove yourself to be stronger than them.

• Why does “I have lost myself mean?
• Is it normal to lose yourself?
• what if I lose myself?
• how do I begin to find myself

The perception or recognition of one’s characteristics as a particular individual, especially in relation to social context is simply the identity of one’s self.

How conscious is your today from who you are a few years back? This is one of the critical questions you keep straining your head with the past few days, am I right?

I want to assure you that you are not alone in this,we{myself and God} are with you so don’t worry because together we will overcome it.

I will do my readers disservice if I don’t share this series with you, in fact, I have kept this topic for a very long time asking myself if I can share this experience properly since I saw my beloved sister go throw this self-loss because of a relationship she could have prevented a long time ago.

I just finished eating a sumptuous Jollof with shito and beef, after eating this food I look back at myself and ask when was the last I had sit-down carbs like that? not to say I don’t have food to eat but my blood type doesn’t permit me to eat too many carbs like what I just finish, anyways it might be smaller than  you could normally eat but it was a big deal to me.

In early 2019, I made this strong decision to cut down my weight by checking my diet and exercise. honestly, I did extremely well with over 50ibs in a year, fast forward today, I have gained back almost 20ibs in just a few months.

so the question that am I asking myself is HAVE I LOST MYSELF?

3 years ago, things began to turn a drastic turn in my sister’s life due to the toxic relationship she was enduring,she laughed outside but cry inside, so I one day ask my she is bound to continue losing herself to someone who doesn’t deserve her love? so she asks me the same question, HAVE I LOST MYSELF?

Reflecting back to the reasons why I have kept this topic to myself because I have not personally experienced total self-lost, bounce back at me.i feel like God telling me its time to help someone out there.

so count yourself blessed if you come across this article because salvation and liberation has come for you today.

Most often than not, women are highly victims when it comes to losing self-identity or self-concept because your self-concept is a collection of beliefs about oneself. Generally, self-concept embodies the answer to “Who am I?”. Self-concept is distinguishable from self-awareness, which refers to the extent to which self-knowledge is defined, consistent, and currently applicable to one’s attitudes and dispositions.

Especially in marriage, relationships, raising kids, etc. women feel more of giving themselves out to make sure that their kids, husband, and any other person are perfectly ok than their own wellbeing. we are all victims but today I want to ask you this few questions:

• What happens when you break down mental, physical, and emotional that you can’t do anything for the ones you love?
• who takes care of those you are sleeplessly thinking off every day when you cant think again?
• who takes care of you when you no longer have the strength to care for yourself.
• how long will the man you are dying for, keep your memories when you die of anger and bitterness?

Remember! someone first loved you and still loves you unconditionally and his name is JESUS.

So my sister, WHY HAVE YOU LOST YOURSELF?

It doesn’t matter how bad it is or how hard it gets, I am going to make it in life because I have got the right stuff(life, dreams, purpose, potential, and God) When life hits you down, lay at your back because if you can lie down at your back, you can get up because you can see your dreams. It is better to have a dream before you get the opportunity.

so now the question is how ready are your dreams if you get that one opportunity?

As a young girl growing up in my village, I have always been told how great my future will be, I knew it, I saw it through my dreams, I knew I will be great woman someday.i have always held my dream at hand, so am always quick to reply or tell you what I want in life without a blink because my dreams always await my opportunity.

Sometimes people have to say No seven times until they say yes, so don’t give up keep pushing.  You can never be a winner when there is no help, insight, or plan to get what you need, give your life some empowerment, and that only comes from what we read, listen or see or how ready you are to that great opportunity you are waiting for.

when we(me and my friends) completed film school, it was my dream to pick back my blog again, I had something in mind(dream) am sure my friends were just about finding one, I just realize their dreams were to work for some other people but for me, I wanted to work for myself.

Early this year, I stopped working for free as an intern but they still work for free, believing they will be employed, I hope they do because I love them, I came to stay home and started investing my time and my energy on my dreams. sooner or later I started making some cent from my blog and the universe sent me favors from all direction to help me out just because I was ready with my dreams for an opportunity.

What is that one key that will reveal the uncertainty of what we need? whatever you have done today is the manifestation of what you have seen or hear, so do what gives your life meaning. listen, read and hear more

So today I woke quite late of which I wish I can change it because it distracting my progress of production but that when I am not able to do more work during the night.

There is always a new belief when someone does something great, then it possible and that is my inspiration.

When I have a lot on my desk, I turn to lazy around because I get overwhelmed so I let go. At the same time I have this tenacity of finishing what I set my mind to do.so I develop my mind to set realistic small goals to achieve what I want to do.

When I wake up today, I listen to my favorite speaker Leslie Brown a world well-known speaker who was mentally retarded, who feared to do what he was dreamed to do but never give up. today he is the world’s greatest speaker over a million people.

ONE OF THE GREATEST FAILURES IS WHEN LIFE IS LIVING ON YOU AND YOU NOT LEAVING ON YOUR LIFE.

So do you know what I did, I stopped myself from watching Netflix or youtube, went to my room to exercise, bath, write, and am feeling accomplished now?

How did I do this today? I listen to be inspired. sometimes you just have to listen, be creative and resillent.what people see it to be unnecessary should be beneficial to you, for all you know, it might be what will change your life forever. Get up out there, plan something to do, be inspired by something, and accomplish your dreams.

Am glad my dream is accomplished because I believe everyone is born for a purpose, but it necessary to associate yourself with great people, people who believe it not enough or end till they make it in life.those are the people you need to get what you want.we all have the greatness to manifest our greatness, and when you know that purpose is, it will be necessary to go for what is yours.

IT IS NOT ONLY POSSIBLE TO ACCOMPLISH YOUR DREAM BUT IT ALSO NECESSARY TO WORK AT IT,EXPAND OUR CREATIVITY AND BELIEVE MOVE. LESLIE  BROWN

We all have the energy to get to the next level but we have to get associated with people who share our vision, people who see it with us.seek out people who think like you.

I DONT BELIEVE NECESSITY IS THE MOTHER OF INVENTION, BUT RATHER REFUSING TO ACCEPT THINGS THE WAY THEY ARE IS THE MOTHER OF INVENTION. IF YOU DECIDE YOU DESERVE MORE THAN THIS, YOU CAN DO EXPLOIT.

Sometimes we can not see our own potential, but be careful the people with the people you entrust yourself with or who you tag along with your purpose, you might not necessary or fully know your potential but I know you have great people who can help me achieve what you need, so, therefore, have a great direction for yourselves and you will accomplish it.

To answer these questions, what are you doing? what brought you here and where are you going.

Have a great day, while you ponder on this question.

LOVE YOU.

• Gratitude is the fairest blossom which springs from the soul.” – Henry Ward Beecher.
• “Gratitude turns what we have into enough.
• “Gratitude is a powerful catalyst for happiness.

knowing the above, can you sincerely tell me when it is necessary to be grateful? I am a  victim too so dont be too harsh on yourself but thank God for wisdom. I use to be a praying freak, God I want, God give me, ignoring God am grateful until I learn to appreciate the universe for every single day, needs and provisions,the more valuable things are mostly less appreciated, like life, when was the last time you woke up in the morning and said thank you Lord for life but when someone sent as momo, we call, send a message and call again the next day to say thank you countlessly until the person begs us to stop thanking them, neglecting the one who gives life.

There are more to be grateful for in life in this coronavirus season if you are living in ghana but this are the basics but essential needs for this abnormal days.

In today’s article, I want to draw your attention to important things you have been taking for granted in this corona pandemic. if you live in ghana, from today till the end and more of this abnormal season be grateful if:

YOU ARE ALIVE BEING IT POSITIVE OR NEGATION

Taking the right of movement from the human is simply like taking their life from them, imagine living in the square meter of your house without movement, it same as death, did you see how uncomfortable it was? put this scenario into perspective, think deeply about it and you will understand how merciful God has been to you and your family. People who pray for death only see the essence of living when they see how some people die, so whether you are positive or negative, alive or sick,be grateful because only the living can praise God.

TOXIC RELATIONSHIP/SITUATIONSHIP

Human beings are living only under the grace of Christ who is love, so therefore we live, move and exist because of the love, in as much as we were formed under the conviction of love, a lot are chocked, sick, sad, weak and unhappy because of one toxic relationship or situationship.we are in a season where love is the utmost gift to give so when your partner decides to abuse and maltreat you trust me you will be better of dead than alive.so if someone love and appreciate you in this pandemic, why not join the praise and appreciation jam and be grateful in this corona season in Ghana.

COHABITATION

cohabitation is the act of living together with someone, unfortunately,78% of persons cohabitating have several reasons, love, financial problems, homeless and many more. I remember years ago when I was struggling with accommodation problems, I stayed with a friend and the trauma I went through was worse than being homeless, at least you will have freedom of movement, freedom of expression and the right to do whatever you want on the street, this same accommodation issues lead me to do things I was never ready to do my entire life.so if you have a safe and personal place to stay in this pandemic without waiting outside for keys before you enter your room in ghana then be grateful.

FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE

Financial freedom is freedom from fears and limitations.we are in abnormal times where panic buying is the norm of the day, sometimes having your own money to buy becomes unbearably difficult in this corona season, how much more begging or borrowing before taking care of yourself or your family? if you are financially independence, if you can provide food for yourself without soliciting or waiting for the government to feed you then be grateful because someone really wish to be like you.

STRONG SUPPORT SYSTEMS

To have a strong support system is a gift and a privilege you cant trade, the essence of God creating humans was to worship him which is the utmost purpose of creation, but have you wondered why god ensured that we become each other’s keeper?

we give and take life when we support ourselves as human beings. people without family, love ones, and always lonely turn to have a short life span because of one’s deficiency of having someone to love, call, care for, and talk to cease to live.

my mum called to send me foodstuffs and she got pissed just because I didn’t pick up during the early stage of the corona, so I ask her why did she get angry because of that, that actually didn’t make sense to me before but when I look back and thing true well I get excited because I have someone who will and always willing to support me no matter how big or small she has and such basic things give life so be grateful if someone picks her phone to call to check up on you, don’t take it for granted, be grateful

Every woman dream of her own perfect guy, tall,dark or fair, rich, good job with a big fat bank account,luxurious cars, consistent with communication, intelligent, ready to learn, and the one who picks problems through my words without necessarily asking. he sees my worse behaviors as a learning process to better himself to face our lives together because love is two incomplete persons coming together to fill each other’s void. No woman wants to settle down with a man who preaches and paint women as gold diggers forgetting their mums as a woman. with all this perfection in their head, do you also know what happens when she finally finds the dream perfect guy?

Every man sees himself as a good man and vise versa but the truth of the matter is, a good man finds a good woman intriguing, blessed and happy unless a friend of his doubt what he is experiencing due to his past experience but when a good woman finds a good man, she solemnly unbelievably doubts what she is experiencing and consider it to be too true to be true. Women go through a lot of things when they find a perfect guy. The school of thought on who a woman or man really seems outmoded but still holds the strongest belief which seems not to wash off. The controversy of men are bad…dogs…trash and women are gold diggers, difficult to understand..worrisome and you do the additions.
The above mention of sex misunderstanding is all based on acquaintance, experience, and perception which of course convict people to conclude whatever they say or think but can you guess what women do when they find the perfect guy?

Good men also find it intriguing when a woman has the all-round package and qualities like self-dependent, industrious, respectful, and ego pampering.
So if you have a perfect guy who treats you well but still feels unhappy, there is a possibility you are having this problem when the man overbears the qualities you aspire in a perfect guy.

IT TOO TRUE TO BE TRUE(DOUBT)

what some women do when they find a perfect man is mostly ridiculous.A lot of women deserves or want a man who calls her baby, kiss her as he meant it, hold her like he won’t let go of her, doesn’t cheat or lie, wipe her tears when she cries, doesn’t make her jealous of other women but rather makes other women jealous of her, he is not scared to let his friends know how he feels about her and let her know how he feels about her but these same women will doubt the credibility of the man when she sees all these perfect treats doubt if he’s real and gets scared by asking if this is really true? this feeling sometimes makes women scared to open up more to perfect guys. if you are a guy and you observe this situation, the only solution is constant assurance.

SHE FEELS UNDESERVED

some women do unbelievable things when they find their perfect guy. Can you actually blame her when she feels underserve of that love you are showering her? the answer is no because some guy you ignorantly know gave her a piece of trauma, betrayal, abuse, disrespect, and some to the extent of losing their self-worth, self-love. some women feel underserved of their color, size, weight, or their educational background. over the years, the fear of underserved among women of color especially has prevented a lot of women from enjoying their right to be loved making her feel worthless of how she is been adored by her own kind of perfect man. when this happens in your relationship, the only solutions are consistent words of affirmations to make her feel deserved and worthy of your love.

 SELF SABOTAGE

why do you think a woman will sabotage her own self when she finds a perfect guy? the word self-sabotaging simply means deliberately damaging or preventing yourself from achieving something great for yourself without recognizing your passive-aggressive interaction style. This gets in the way of you focusing on her great qualities and holds yourself back from potentially becoming who you are meant to be.so you met this tall, dark, nice muscles in your dream car, he approached you and make his intentions to love you but your self sabotaging self tells you, how can a farmers daughter marry the minister’s son,it impossible so you stop picking his calls and ignore his messages.To stop sabotaging yourself, you need to figure out your patterns of behavior and then find creative ways to counteract them and form new habits.

A  wise woman once said, When we are stuck in rut, we are invited to grow and expand when I saw this very quote I suddenly became sober because of how my life has been. we normally ask questions like why me God, why are my friends living their best life but things don’t seem to push forward with me?

You might have a fuzzy idea of the person you want to be or the kind of life you want but you don’t really know how to make that happen, this is where the feeling of dissatisfaction roll in.

But the good news is that you can, in fact, get out of the rut you are stuck in-even if you feel the complete opposite.if you feel like you can’t move forward in life, chances are, it has something to do with the following reasons.

YOU DONT KNOW WHO YOU ARE

Your perception of yourself is your power, a key to yourself esteem breakthrough. As young as I was my passion, interest, and hobbies where my identities when growing up, certain things changed along the growth process that is actually when I started asking myself who really am i in life, the moment answers to such questions refuse to manifest themselves for a long time, that is when one feels he or she is stuck in life. I had known myself to be that girl who loves to sacrifice me to make others happy, I didn’t like seeing people leave my life the same way they came in so per others observations nursing was a perfect job career for me but life really became miserable when I applied nursing school for the 11 times in my life without getting admission. the feeling of uncertainty now set in to find who really am I .sometimes the search for your identity as an individual can make you lose the keys and powers to your self-esteem because without a concrete actualization of who you really are hold back your sense of living rendering you stuck in life.

YOU DONT KNOW WHAT YOU WANT

A lot of people don’t realize that they could be so much closer to their ideal future if only they spent real time thinking about what that future actually means. They only have a vague, lack define ideas of the things that they want. Without a clear idea of what to aspire for, those plans and goals will be just as half-baked.there is mostly confusion when it comes to what people really want to what they need, your needs survive you while your want sustain you. And so, one’s inability to have a well-defined idea of what your “Point B” is – a.k.a. Where you want to be..then work your way back to “Point A”, which is where you are now.That means you have to have a well-defined “Point B” before you can start plotting your course towards that destination of knowing what you want. I have been fighting myself for almost a decade and still searching for what I really want in life. it sometimes tricky because I put in my all to enjoy every bit of anything I have hands-on from editing videos, producing television shows, learning cake and sugarcraft, and still confused about what I want in life rendering me stuck on my life journey. you might have also done everything you want but I want to assure you not to give up.

YOU DONT KNOW HOW TO GET IT

A lot of people tend to just accept their situation and get used to feeling stuck. This is often because they have been so beaten down that they felt like there’s nothing to do but give up.

They become desperate and think that there’s really nothing else for them to do. It’s like they are in an endless tunnel with no light to look forward to but what they don’t realize is that they lack a solid plan to get out of the rut they’re in. That’s why they never achieve the escape velocity to overcome the gravity of their situation. Worse, they’re afraid to come up with a plan in the first place. Treading water and staying afloat is a lot less scary than trying to move forward and fail. The struggles to finding ways to get what we actually want to become tied back. I didn’t have any role model growing up, no financial back support, talkless who to or where to go for what I really need in life and in most cases, one’s inability to how to get what he or she wants to, neglect the power to fight the stuck rut in life. But in the long run, “protecting” yourself from failure has far worse consequences than making a plan to get un-stuck.

I hope you enjoy today’s article which am sure has given you insight on why you feel stuck in life and believe with this observation, you will take time to find solutions to your stagnation in life and wish you all the best as you start your journey, be assured that kuksonline well bring few tips on how to get yourself rolling out of the stuck, in order not to lose our next article please allow the notification to be notified with our next post.

The World Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow
In the beginning, the world we know was in a void, shapeless and dark; devoured of all possible life-sustaining conditions. The Almighty God in His wisdom and power commanded light, form, and order into this world. He again breathes his Holy Spirit to hover the earth, possessing and bringing it to life. In the beginning, animals and plants were the first custodians of this earth, our air space, and water bodies.

Out of love and for the purpose of order and dominion God created you and I (Man).
Man is God’s creation as well any other things breathing on earth but Man was created differently and for a higher purpose. A man was made in the image, likeness, and power of God with a touch of love, therefore, Man became ruler over the earth and it’s inhabitants and this is God’s plan from the beginning.

Today the world has revolved and evolved in many ways. Times have passed, seasons changed and Man grew more hungry for the quest of seeking knowledge from both Creator and creation. Throwback to the beginning when Man was created by God; The Master Architect of the Universe yet He gave man also the spirit of Free Will to live life best to our discretion but with the guidance of God the Father. Fast forward, Today Man’s quest for knowledge and power has opened doors, if not Secrets of the world.

In present times our free will as Human Beings has made us intelligent and supreme which makes us almost forget the source of our life whereas Man now sees themselves as “God” and that The Creator is no more relevant in matters of His creation.
The world we know today has been thrown into shambles; Nations rise against each other, Some are killing others just to gain power over many, Diseases and plaques breaking out wiping out God’s most cherished creation; Man. In all these dark moments God hasn’t abandoned us to suffer and perish in the world he created for us.

Nonetheless, He has given us free will and expects us to discharge it to the best interest of the world entirely.
In the year AD 2020, Man has fallen again, Man couldn’t possess the earth to make it prosperous as the Creator would have it. In the stubbornness of Man’s heart, we neglect our Creator in all these tragedies in the world.
He’s the Alpha and Omega and he alone has the healing power upon his creations yet we still insist on doing it on our own.
In the world today we are battled by many forces and they come every day in different forms and energy. This time we’re crippled by the Coronavirus which is wiping out Men from the face of the earth. Remember God loves us unconditionally for us to think He has neglected us to suffer and die; lest we forget he created Man granting us Freewill and Wisdom and that what the world face today is the fault of man, not God, however, He’s there to redeem us when we call on Him. Amidst the horror of these Pandemic people of different Nationalities, Race, Class, and ideologies have been sobered and overwhelmed. Each day passing by most of us alive today have been reconnected to a higher power for help and refuge. The whole world has not been in a normal state in these few months. The fear of a short but painful death has brought Man to the realization that we can’t do this on our own, especially at the point where Medical experts prescribe rather prayers to the infected persons because at this moment there is no cure for CoVid-19 except by the grace of God.
Human activity all over the world is almost coming to a shutdown, it is as though we are being wiped out to be replaced by another batch of humans. Today in many parts of the world, governments have ordered for lock-down of cities, businesses and social gatherings which brings human activities to a halt and in confinement rather animals on the land, in the sea, and of the air are reoccupying the space just like it was in the beginning; This brings to mind that maybe Mother Earth is healing herself from all the atrocities we have caused her. For the first time in a long while the world has become a quiet place as it was in the beginning. This is the time we need to slow down, reflect and appreciate Life as we are still clinging to it, bearing in mind that death is inevitable therefore it is pointless to wallow in fear and anxiety.

The earth is cleaning up and unfortunately, some of us will be brought down in the raze while some live to tell the story, either way, we both agree we are not in normal times and we can not live normally as we used to so long as Coronavirus remains incurable. Why worry about what you have no absolute control of. As earlier recorded in the creation story; God created us in His knowledge and with Wisdom which is needed today as a guide in living our lives in these uncertain times by observing all preventive protocols spelled to us by our health experts who are working tirelessly around the clock to make vaccines for the cure.

This question keeps coming to mind, “How careful can you be”! .This pandemic has hurt our hearts but it should instead open our eyes to see and appreciate the love of God rather than trying hard to hold unto life; The life which has been rented to us and can be taken away any day without our consent.

Tomorrow, when the sun smile on us once again, Man would have gone through some positive transformation. People will now appreciate the little things in life, treat one another with respect and love. We will now know our survival as humans can never be sustained by power, influence, wealth, political stands nor social class. Inequality will be wiped out hopefully and every Nation in the world will be one another’s Keeper because we now understand how neglecting the basic needs of others can turn around to affect everyone. We will begin to see the world as the global village it is with open arms to accept one another with love, respect, and appreciation. In the light of tomorrow, after most of us are gone and resting, our children will take up our mantles and lead the new generation into a world free of hate, atrocities, plaque, suffering, except the fear of God.

We have lived and survived eventualities others couldn’t and we stood to tell their stories, tomorrow we may not have the chance to tell our own experiences of today. The best we can do is to let each day of our remaining life count, show mercy as the Father has for you, express Love without holding back and give generously expecting nothing in return. By this, we make our lives peaceful and the world a better place.

In conclusion, this is another phase of life that shall also pass. Just as Jesus Christ had his sorrowful moments in the Garden of Gethsemane before His crucifixion; We also have our Gethsemane moments in various ways. As Jesus did, this is the time to cry and call on God to help and strengthen us to carry our crosses. God never abandons His children in times of grave or danger, although Christ suffered till His glorious death God was always with him all the way till His resurrection as He is with us this day and forever.

For our fallen brothers and sisters we pray for God’s merciful judgment and peaceful repose of their souls.

HAVE YOU EVER BEEN SCARED TO FULL IN LOVE? IS IT REALLY BAD TO HAVE SUCH FEAR? HOW DID YOU OVERCOME IT?

Hello everyone and welcome back to my blog, today’s article is going to be a little bit personal and real. I really wish I can cross my legs on my bed and align my laptop on my lap but I guess my 53 inches hips can’t sit on my legs properly so let manage the stretched legs.

I am that productive girl who always wants to be on top of her game when it comes to my profession but I really suck when it comes to relationships.

Let do some background dating history ok. alright, I let my guard down at age 22 years and I don’t care about whatever you going to say because I did more than well at that age.

I had dreams and aspirations but you know life happens, Fast forward three years later I was done dating. I was spoilt and pampered didn’t know how the next person is going to treat me. wink!🤫

I have had pretty interesting date thou, well not all that Rosie but I cherish all my experiences.

I am a free-spirited person and anything that hold me back from doing what I want or say is an obstacle and that why I chose to be celibate.5 years down the drain, I have learned a lot about myself, from personal growth, self-development, self-love, and self-control.

My absence or celibacy journey has actually opened my eyes and heart to what I wanted for myself in life when it comes to relationships because that is where the case is, I can really tolerate some crab and that what people think it crazy.

Life experience with men and people around me has been an eye-opener for me to truly access and position myself for what is ahead of me as far as marriage is concerned.

I  never get bothered with what others do when it comes to my emotions and I think that action was developed from where I grew up. I grew up in a two-story building with a lot of tenants, marriage and single, cheaters, honest, and womanizers. I saw a lot of fo things that made me psyched my mind on humans in general as young as age 12. I saw good women that served their husband’s side chicks ignorantly, good and responsible men loved with their all but never get loved.

I know perfectly well that, my life is far different from what I saw growing up as long my destiny concern, although it made me see more self-love that really foregoing myself.

Honestly, womanizers fascinate me because they are very smart, they know what to say and do at the right time that sounds a bit crazy but take it or leave it, its the truth.
I grew up to be that girl that loves challenging herself to defeat anything she valued, cherish, and that my integrity and pride, that really sounds like a guy right? Yes, I think so. I have a little masculine ish in my bloodstream.

Ok enough of me, the main reason for this article is to share with you why some women are scared of loving because am also a victim AM I REALLY SCARED OF FALLING IN LOVE? Ask yourself again if you are still not sure.

I love the experience of love but all my plugs turn of the moment I sense love in someone’s eyes. This is mostly men Delima and so do women too.

•  The fear of being hurt: of course I have been beautifully hurt but the hurt I have seen people go through in the name of love is shocking and unbelievable.
• The fear of losing something that once cherished: nobody wants to lose what he or she is enjoying or make her happy. I lost my best friend last year and I lost appetite for friendship again.
• The fear of unknown identity: Everyone knows his or her name but not their identity SOMETIMES, Where you are coming from, where you are going to an individual, who you really are and how you feel plays a major role in defining once choice. This is mostly a critical stage in the life of a man. until he is fully convinced to give himself out, everything marriage, commitment, and love are other matters to him.
• The fear Of trust: I believe life is dynamic and so are humans, people grow, things change for good or bad, but the most important thing is to be the best trustworthy for yourself and it will be reciprocated.

with the above mention and many more are fears that prevent others from falling in love, but someone may ask why should you fear to fall in love because love is a beautiful thing trust me but in one way or the other this fear has shaped me to reach some potential level in life but I still believe there are amazing people out there who are honestly waiting for your acceptance to show you more than love if you only let them.

My past or your past was just part of the script to guard you.it times to get rid of that fear and open your heart out am on the paths of working on myself  and we can do it together if you can relate.

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HAVED YOU HEARD OF THE NEW DM CONTROVERSY OF BOTH MEN AND WOMEN? IF NO THEN WHICH WORLD ARE YOU?

Let me Gist you! but before then just answer this question for me. Are women really being paranoid, nagging, impatient or just telling the truth? Are men of today romantic enough to make a woman fall in love via dm messages? Has any man swept you off your feet in your dm before?

The social distance and this lockdown issues have really vibrated a lot of noise on social media, some men are complaining women love or like money, some women are complaining that some men don’t know how to start a convoy on messenger.

So am in this group called “TELL IT ALL“, a vibrant young men and women group that allows both sexes to share their feelings and misunderstandings and welcome all sorts of opinions from both sexes. Men don’t like to call cheat neither are women showing their front teeth to women love money.

In all this misunderstanding, remember that we all have a role to play in making each other happy than always finding ways to be communicative and controversial.Every woman feels secure with a man that puts their needs into perspective and that the trick both sexes are refusing to embrace, understand and learn.

So in this article, we are going to suggest certain tricks that are welcome in the woman’s dictionary that can make them feel secured than attacked, keep in mind, women communicate differently. Example: when a woman says she is hungry to a man, she meant to say I will be glad if you buy me food, but when a man says I am hungry, it means, there is food but am feeling lazy to go get it. These tricks below are believed to sweep a woman off her feet to like or fall in love with you based on what over 1k comment from women suggested on how men should behave in their DMs.

DONT ASK TOO MANY QUESTIONS, DO YOUR RESEARCH.

Facebook has made it easier to get countless information on people through their personal profile, like name, marital status, place of living, educational level, schools attended and many more. A lot of women get offended just because they feel, some men are not serious or smart and I use to think so too.

This is because, a white man will show up on my dm and talk about how my career is developing as a blogger while a black man will send me hi, hello, what do you do for a living and many more, meanwhile that same person has been liking my business page.

Honestly, I don’t feel like asking questions that are not found in one’s profile will look more annoying than going to the extreme of asking the person” what is your name and what do you do for a living while all this info are there in the profile.

MAKE THE WOMAN FEEL SECURED.

Every woman’s number one priority is to feel safe and secure with the person he is charting with, someone commented in tell it that, someone got pissed with just asking how are you.

There is actually nothing wrong with that question, but what comes out next could be disastrous.example is a guy asking a girl how are you every day and they lady telling him how his day went and bounce, come back again and ask that same question how are you again?

So the woman says my day has been boring just being home, and the guy goes like can I be your singing teddy bear to sing for you and send her a video to a bear singing.

Judge this, who will this lady feel secured with? Remember, everyone has his or her own love languages and that alone, makes her feel safe with you because her needs are met.

FIND OUT WHAT THE WOMAN REALLY LIKE OR LOVE THAN ASKING PERSONAL QUESTIONS.

YES!!! How do you feel when you ask someone to write about herself and after writing them, you look through and ask some questions you have answers to, put yourself in this situation for a minute, am naked so will get something to wear and be right back?

Am back, let continue, how is the feeling like? Oh, you see. So you hit a ladies dm and ask hey girl wosop with you? And she goes like I am really bored at home. trust me to be the happiest gentleman on earth because she has a problem that needs to be solved and when solved, she becomes happy.

At this very moment, she loves to be out of this boredom and a funny sung with a terrible voice can even hit her gigs to laugh out loud than asking her personal questions like where do you stay and what she does for a living. women actually get annoyed when you beat around the bush than going straight to the point to give them what they love to hear. When they are feed with what they really love to hear, they voluntarily tell you more about themselves and get curious to know more about you. did  I make sense here?

APPROACH WITH A GREAT SENSE OF HUMOR

Every woman wants to be with a man who has a great sense of human and not that guy who finds issues or faults with whatever joke she put across. approach her with something she can be laughing about, there are countless friends who met on social media because of their great sense of humor, so instead of asking what do you do for a living, try saying, do you mind pounding you fufu or preparing you your favorite food tomorrow? Knowing perfectly that you don’t know her favorite food and that can crack her up.

BE CONSISTENT IN YOUR CONVOY

Every young girl want to be involving in someone’s life and being consistent makes one feel like he or she’s literally part of your life, don’t be that guy that makes a woman feel comfortable chatting today and go on a  sleeping mode for a week and come back acting up like all is well, men actually like doing stuff like that, they can just go off without notice or explanation and come back acting all find guy, brah! Someone somewhere has taken over that space you left. remember it quarantine, people are bored so every guy is looking through his phone for prey to suck on SO the slightest mistake, she is gone forever.

MIND YOUR CHOICE OF WORDS AND KEEP TO THEM.

99% of women process gifts as their love language, so don’t go promising her money while she hasn’t asked for it and when she reminds you of your own promise, you start ranting like all women like money.there are intelligent women out there who make out how a man’s personality is just by his choice of words.for example, a guy I met on Facebook promised me of some money to get some grocery for the lockdown, I told him not to bother but he insisted. A week later, he told me I have passed his text because he was looking forward to me asking him of the money he promised me himself, can you imagine that? Honestly, I gave him my piece of mind, there are guys who rant around ladies all in the name of texting them to see whether they like money or not, beloved! Women like money and men like women so stop saying what your mother and sisters have been doing and just keep to your wordS

DONT JUST CHAT, MAKE A DIFFERENCE

So one guy sent a snapshot of a guy and a woman who met on Facebook, dated, got married and had a baby. Interpreting it like he was there when the guy was giving her time when he was supporting her need when he was observing her love language when he was surprising her with a little gift even when he was not close.

I have come across a lot of people and can say a lot of people have made a lot of difference in my life.i have received a lot of support from people I have not seen personally, but has gone a long way to make difference in my life, so don’t just say sorry when she’s bold enough to say she is hungry, she doesn’t have data or she is not feeling well.

Find a smart way to find what restaurant around her and surprise her with food, get her that 5gh cedis data you can afford, get that your friend or brother to send her the drugs she needs and check up on her if you are out of the country.

Don’t do it for a woman, do it for your mum and future generation and she will forever keep that memory of difference.

Good luck!!

Ignorance deprives people of freedom because they do not know what alternatives there are. It is impossible to choose to do what one has never heard of. Beware of false knowledge; it is more dangerous than ignorance. Ignorance is always afraid of change. Have you observed anything you doing or enjoying at this lockdown that might affect you mentally or physically after COVID 19 lockdown?

Can I ask you how your ears somethings feel as a mother, father or compulsory COVID 19 nanny? what about your attention and focus on the television,iPods, phone, etc. oh I nearly forgot about how you are occupying the kids with cartoons just to have some peace. mummy can I eat that, daddy have you seen so so and so pour water on me?

Oh, Jesus, I am not a mother but I can feel it as a compulsory COVID 19 locked down nanny, trust me. Give me six hours to cut a tree and I will use the first four hours to sharpen the ax, there is a saying that, by failing to prepare is preparing to fail.

There is a negative and positive side to everything, bearing that in mind to be cautious to plan your daily life is an expensive success, but failure to prepare ahead is an extravagant mistake.

So in today’s article, I am going to share with you 3 things you might be enjoying without considering its effect or few things you might consider or repair mentally or physically after COVID 19.

FOOD-WEIGHT GAIN

Weight gain has become a common silent pandemic both men and woman are struggling with,As little as two hours of TV, a day can increase the risk of weight gain, diabetes, and heart disease in adults. There are likely several factors to blame, including a sedentary lifestyle, less sleep, and generally bad eating habits when engrossed into a screen. but if you are just excited about having hubby and the kids home, cooking all good and junk food, sitting down all day, enjoying NetFlix and chill and inactive then get ready for weight loss Bootcamp after this pandemic.”As inactive people gain weight, they become more inactive, and as a consequence gain more weight. Research shows that, as people’s weight increases, their physical activity decreases, and in extreme cases, the bar to being active is so high that most morbidly obese individuals can only sit and sleep. This accumulated weight gains must surely be repaired Physically and mentally after COVID 19 if care is not taken.

MUSIC -EAR ISSUES

COVID 19 locked down has actually made people spend a lot of time home watching movies and listening to songs. Due to privacy policies, ear bugs, earpiece, headset are becoming a common phenomenon to maintain one’s comfort forgetting its effect. According to the center for disease control and prevention research, loud noise can damage cells and membranes in the cochlea. Listening to loud noise for a long time can overwork hair cells in the ear, which can cause these cells to die. The hearing loss progresses as long as the exposure continues. Harmful effects might continue even after noise exposure has stopped.

TV / SCREENS-EYE EFFECT

Have you wondered why to much screen time or watching television can cause your eyes and expand to your brain? someone may ask what should we then do in this boring lockdown? we are not saying don’t watch but manage the rate at which you spend time focusing on the screen else you might need some repairs on your eyes after the lockdown. Looking at a screen for extended periods of time can cause “computer vision syndrome, symptoms like strained, dry eyes, blurred vision, and headache. Poor posture when using screens combined with can cause chronic neck, shoulder, and back pain.

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