They say patience is a great virtue but silence is not golden (KAUI DANKU) neither is tolerance easy. There are people we accommodate, others we consider and some we just front strong face for.
It hurt to the born, sometimes teary, other times feels like giving up.
Am not a superwoman neither do I want to put up a strong face with people that kill silently?
There is no collapsing relationship or marriage that can vet on the fact that the red flags lalipoping now which is jeopardizing the marriage today were not seen at the beginning of the marriage.
Woman are naturally overprotected and defensive creatures but they are the most precious creature that God is keen about, so don’t take them for granted.
She might have been vulnerable or desperate for dippy reasons but they are the most dangerous beings that whatever you do to them comes back to you (karma).
It saddens my heart and soul when you meet people you care about and do all things possible to adjust to each other on the grounds of love but you are never appreciated but rather look a fool to them, just because no matter what they do, you still care about them. It’s so crazy huh?
This is some basic things I have tolerated for almost two years of our friendship and am kind of proud of myself.
DISCLAIMER: it’s not easy so don’t try to tolerate the below mention if your maturity level hasn’t grown up to my stage.
He said what sapping is for important purposes, not just texting anyhow demanding reply’s, so he drops a sentence after texting him a whole week.
He’s always busy doing one thing or the other if he makes time, he leaves early, oh which life be that one?
If he offends you, he asks for reasons why he should apologize, eeeiiiish sister!
He doesn’t show up in a mutual plan date and claim he had an emergency on his way out to meet you leaving his phone in car, that means no appearance and he doesn’t call back in days to say sorry unless you bring heaven and earth down on your own to reach him and his excuses…OMG and you are his…….?
You wait for him for two hours without apologies but leaves in five minutes when you are late……please can you tell me who is that?
You give him a surprise visit and gives you attitudes but complain when you don’t pass by when you in his area, oh sister stop talking, I can’t bear this again.
You are so anxious to help him, check up on him, find out how his day went or how did the exams go and he never cares to say thanks for checking up on me.himmm
When won’t call to let you know whether he can come or not when he says I will pick you at 7 pm, you better start moving for your life?
He’s the first to ask how your schedule is during the weekend or the days but never show up.
He can switch his mood for months without picking our calls or replying our text messages, sister stop worry yourself because of he careless about you!
He is always aggressive on the topic concerning women and claims all women are the same. His sexual orientation or experience is terrible. He needs psychological help.
He spends time on his birthday with people he claim they are never around when needed them except for having time but gilt those who care about him, the schedule you are the last minute on his birthday and trust me for gold, he won’t show up or call to conceal the appointment, who cares about the plans you have for him?
Oh, his victim mentality is killing, he does something he needs to apologize but turn it around like you rather the worse one, man this is typical psychological and emotional abuse.
You get an accident or fall sick to hell with you expecting a visit.
Nobody is totally worst because he’s sweet when around but trust me, love is a beautiful thing. I have always believed that love is love when someone you care about reciprocates how you really care about him or her. it’s not necessarily sexual or romantic love or just friendship love.
Love only loves when you still love even when you are hurt.
Its heart bleeding, emotional torture and draining, but in all I still advise you love unconditionally.
I have grown out of his behavior to be one great and strong woman I never dreamt of becoming just because I gave up countlessly but I still overlooked and still care.
I might not know how he thinks or feels about me, probably I don’t deserve his respect, love, care, and appreciation.
But one thing that encourages me most is that he will one day if not forever remember there was one fool he knew that tolerated me.
That won’t give me world best women tolerant but never give up loving or caring for people who care less about you, it might be your calling.
TO BE CONTINUE IN PART 2
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