Have you ever dated a married man before? How did he make the advances Sister! Stop looking around. Oh yes, you are the one I am talking to. Why are you running, why? why why are you running?
Oh, why the silence? Hmmm, you don’t want to know; good! you are now jamming. hold it right there. Yes the lady with loaded buttocks, are you talking to me? Hehehehe.
Can I get this unpardonable behavior corrected, please? Why are you all acting as if you have not juridic to someone’s personal properties before? No married man has made advances before?
I ask a simple question. Have you ever patched someone’s husband before?
Ok madam, let cut this hypocrisy chain right here and right now. Yes, I have. You all should stop looking at me like a dummy in the Chanel store mirror as if you are innocent.
Whether he didn’t tell you he was married or you know or he decided to play the second messiah because his wife was the devil, you all have dated a married man before. PERIOD!!
NOW THE QUESTION IS, HOW DID HE MAKE THOSE ADVANCES AT YOU TO AGREE TO BANG HIM?
Yes, you raise your hand, how may I help you. Well, madam, I didn’t know he was married so that can’t be considered as such.
Young lady pls sit down, you have dated a married man. Don’t be shy, a spade is always a spade.
I can see another lady’s hand up, ooohh am married hehe but you are my type. Really? Of course, let talk after reading ok.
The truth of the matter is women have wanted and men have needs. To want something can be specific but to need is not always with specifics so when u get one need you to move to another and that who men are naturally.
WILLARD HARVEY, IN HIS BOOK HIS NEEDS/HER NEEDS, STATES THE FIVE TOP NEEDS OF MEN IN MARRIAGE.
Those five needs are
Admiration
Physical attractiveness
Recreational companionship
Sexual fulfillment
Domestic support
The need that is often neglected and that I want to focus on here is the need for admiration.
LET DIG DEEP INTO THE MEANING OF ADMIRATION
When I hear admiration. I simply see scouting eyes to see what it needs to see.
Admiration is a social emotion felt by observing people of competence, talent, or skills exceeding standards. Oh, clap for Mr admiration. This is beautiful.
Baby girl you are being admired because of your talent(how you walk or might be good in bed), competent in front, skilled at how your ass is shaking, or how your beauty is exceeding his uncomprehensive standards.
So you see my sister, you can’t blame the married men. The truth is, if our culture permits us to pursue married men, we women will pursue too and I will be the first to do that.
Sometimes I meet friends or men who are married and omg, where was I ? Annoyingly, most men that are my type that I meet are all FRICKING MARRIED MEN.
WE ADMIRE THEM SILENTLY AND GO SCOUT-FREE BUT WE RAISE JERICO WALLS ON THEM WHEN THEY MAKE ADVANCES ON US JUST BECAUSE THEY WERE MADE TO ADMIRE BILLION SAME SPECIES.
Even though a woman does not need a man for survival, she certainly needs him for the relationship to survive. That’s true for all of us
Psychologist Diana Vince said many women who come into her counseling office don’t take their husband’s need for sex seriously.
They dismiss it as him “caring about one thing” or having a “one-track mind”.
But for many men, it is through sex that they feel emotionally connected, admired, and desired. Typically women are the opposite, they need to feel emotionally connected (usually through thoughtful acts and conversation) before they want to or are inspired to engage in sex.
if a woman is not feeling emotionally fulfilled in her marriage, she will often stop having sex. This is one need in the marriage that is not acceptable to get met elsewhere.
To be successful at preventing affairs, we have to be aware of and able to navigate this difference between needs among men and women.
CRITICISM IS THE WORST OFFENDER.
That’s true for all of us. But it goes right to the core of the man’s need for admiration. So the first step is working toward eliminating criticism of your partner. Notice and acknowledge his efforts
Siiiiiiiis! Men need and women want. To want comes vividly with specifics but to need is uncertain\unsure.
Men are dogs, selfish, dogs and what have you,eeeeiii sister what about your father?
Oh, my father wasn’t a dog, wanting to enter every pant like men of today. Beloved if he is to open his secret deeds and desires to you, am sure you will have a change of mind.
HOW DO YOU POLITELY REJECT A MARRIED MAN
Sometimes the hardest part of dating can be having to tell someone you’re not interested.
Don’t give people false hope. Don’t waste people’s time. And there is no need to apologize.”
“‘I think you are a wonderful person, but I just don’t feel any attraction for you. I am sorry. straight up and honest.
After the first date, I called him a few days later to see if she wanted to hang out again, and she said, ‘Hey I think you’re great, but the chemistry just isn’t there. Kind, honest, direct. You can’t go wrong.
When I meet a cutie married man and he approaches me with respect and I like him, I will put my terms of engagement down and if he agrees.BINGO
Call it conceited, I will call it confidence.
Moving forward, no married man advances should waw you or make you think they are the worse creature ever.
Yes, they are married to beautiful women, even more, taller with big boobs, ass, a good character even more than you.
Surprise not, just know they move by what they see or admire. If you want more understanding ASK your father on father’s day and I bet he will answer you.
I hope you have enjoyed today’s coffee chat with your favorite girlfriend.
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