Is it normal to have doubts after break up? Should you avoid your ex after break up? How do you know is it really over? What should I do immediately after a break-up?
I know there are billion and one questions that need answers right now, to sympathize with you I have been there, I broke up with my first love after a whopping four years of finding his way into my life. sometimes people say men who persist in loving someone may not be genuine, but trust me mine was awesome.i was physically, emotionally and psychologically secured but we broke up because our younger siblings(my sister and his brother ) feel in love and we had to sacrifice our love to make them happy just because of some tradition, yours might be disappointment, betrayal, cheating and many more, still I can feel your pain. In all, kick that wall, bruise that finger, cry your heart out but don’t do these 6 things after a breakup.
don’t ignore or force the pain to go
I call it “defensive mechanism”, this attitude is mostly common with so-called strong women or men of which I am a victim, we turn to ignore the pain by consoling ourselves with all the bad things he \she did to us and ignore the good part of the person. William Shakespeare said life is a stage, we create our own characters and roles. when your characters don’t live to expectation, we create new roles to fix or change them by analyzing the situation, finding a solution and moving on to the next chapter of your life.alot of people are carrying luggage from one breakup to other just because they didn’t allow the pain to go gradually heal.so for healthy mental state after breakup, deal with pain, don’t force or ignore it.
don’t be idle, socialize
If you want to overcome breakup easily don’t be idle but rather socialize, idle minds are the devil’s playground or workshop. Idleness is the only refuge of the weak mind, make yourself and your mind busy, listen to motivational messages, join friends on a picnic, outing or movies.do not kill yourself because life is too long and lonely to be idle, have some fun for yourself and not for anybody because every chapter in your life either add up to future blessings or take something bad away.
don’t waste time on revenge, invest your energy to better yourself.
Turn what the devil meant to be bad for your good if he or she left you for a graduate, take a step further from where he or she left you. Period! I have seen people lost everything after a breakup and ten times multiple gains what they lost. some breakups sometimes are meant to make you stronger, prosperous and healthy. don’t give them the pleasure to see you losing weight all in the name of always thinking of your next move to destroy him or her, channel that revenge into positivity.
don’t listen to love songs
Anyone who listens to love songs after breakup automatically wounds his or herself trust me.music is life, it brings back memories of the life you have lost, therefore causing you more pain and heartache. ? love is a beautiful thing, don’t get it twisted, but instead of listening to love song, listen to inspirational messages.
don’t block them
Opinionatedly, everyone has a way of handling pains so feel free if blocking your ex helps soothe your pain.but what is the use of blocking my ex while my close friends still keep them, thereby seeing my ex on my friends feed? think about it. in the game of love, anyone who block the other is bitter and looser. who even knows what the future hold? there might be a second chance?.unblocking also helps you to appreciate the lesson learned from who you were and how you have matured to be…honestly, some people will curse the day they actually met their ex after 5 years of a breakup when they are on a different level in their lives. don’t block them, let them see who you have grown to become today.
never say never, give love a chance
have you listened to never say never by Justin Bieber? go check it out, never say never, fight till forever, whenever love knocks you down don’t stay there, fight back. A lot of people are still crawling and hiding their loved ones just because of what they said when someone broke their heart, the table always turns, being it good or bad, watch what comes out of your lips when hard times knock at your door.give love the chance when you find one after a breakup. funnily, people who enjoy best love life comes after terrible heartbreaks and breakups.love is a beautiful thing so enjoy it.
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