HAVED YOU HEARD OF THE NEW DM CONTROVERSY OF BOTH MEN AND WOMEN? IF NO THEN WHICH WORLD ARE YOU?
Let me Gist you! but before then just answer this question for me. Are women really being paranoid, nagging, impatient or just telling the truth? Are men of today romantic enough to make a woman fall in love via dm messages? Has any man swept you off your feet in your dm before?
The social distance and this lockdown issues have really vibrated a lot of noise on social media, some men are complaining women love or like money, some women are complaining that some men don’t know how to start a convoy on messenger.
So am in this group called “TELL IT ALL“, a vibrant young men and women group that allows both sexes to share their feelings and misunderstandings and welcome all sorts of opinions from both sexes. Men don’t like to call cheat neither are women showing their front teeth to women love money.
In all this misunderstanding, remember that we all have a role to play in making each other happy than always finding ways to be communicative and controversial.Every woman feels secure with a man that puts their needs into perspective and that the trick both sexes are refusing to embrace, understand and learn.
So in this article, we are going to suggest certain tricks that are welcome in the woman’s dictionary that can make them feel secured than attacked, keep in mind, women communicate differently. Example: when a woman says she is hungry to a man, she meant to say I will be glad if you buy me food, but when a man says I am hungry, it means, there is food but am feeling lazy to go get it. These tricks below are believed to sweep a woman off her feet to like or fall in love with you based on what over 1k comment from women suggested on how men should behave in their DMs.
DONT ASK TOO MANY QUESTIONS, DO YOUR RESEARCH.
Facebook has made it easier to get countless information on people through their personal profile, like name, marital status, place of living, educational level, schools attended and many more. A lot of women get offended just because they feel, some men are not serious or smart and I use to think so too.
This is because, a white man will show up on my dm and talk about how my career is developing as a blogger while a black man will send me hi, hello, what do you do for a living and many more, meanwhile that same person has been liking my business page.
Honestly, I don’t feel like asking questions that are not found in one’s profile will look more annoying than going to the extreme of asking the person” what is your name and what do you do for a living while all this info are there in the profile.
MAKE THE WOMAN FEEL SECURED.
Every woman’s number one priority is to feel safe and secure with the person he is charting with, someone commented in tell it that, someone got pissed with just asking how are you.
There is actually nothing wrong with that question, but what comes out next could be disastrous.example is a guy asking a girl how are you every day and they lady telling him how his day went and bounce, come back again and ask that same question how are you again?
So the woman says my day has been boring just being home, and the guy goes like can I be your singing teddy bear to sing for you and send her a video to a bear singing.
Judge this, who will this lady feel secured with? Remember, everyone has his or her own love languages and that alone, makes her feel safe with you because her needs are met.
FIND OUT WHAT THE WOMAN REALLY LIKE OR LOVE THAN ASKING PERSONAL QUESTIONS.
YES!!! How do you feel when you ask someone to write about herself and after writing them, you look through and ask some questions you have answers to, put yourself in this situation for a minute, am naked so will get something to wear and be right back?
Am back, let continue, how is the feeling like? Oh, you see. So you hit a ladies dm and ask hey girl wosop with you? And she goes like I am really bored at home. trust me to be the happiest gentleman on earth because she has a problem that needs to be solved and when solved, she becomes happy.
At this very moment, she loves to be out of this boredom and a funny sung with a terrible voice can even hit her gigs to laugh out loud than asking her personal questions like where do you stay and what she does for a living. women actually get annoyed when you beat around the bush than going straight to the point to give them what they love to hear. When they are feed with what they really love to hear, they voluntarily tell you more about themselves and get curious to know more about you. did I make sense here?
APPROACH WITH A GREAT SENSE OF HUMOR
Every woman wants to be with a man who has a great sense of human and not that guy who finds issues or faults with whatever joke she put across. approach her with something she can be laughing about, there are countless friends who met on social media because of their great sense of humor, so instead of asking what do you do for a living, try saying, do you mind pounding you fufu or preparing you your favorite food tomorrow? Knowing perfectly that you don’t know her favorite food and that can crack her up.
BE CONSISTENT IN YOUR CONVOY
Every young girl want to be involving in someone’s life and being consistent makes one feel like he or she’s literally part of your life, don’t be that guy that makes a woman feel comfortable chatting today and go on a sleeping mode for a week and come back acting up like all is well, men actually like doing stuff like that, they can just go off without notice or explanation and come back acting all find guy, brah! Someone somewhere has taken over that space you left. remember it quarantine, people are bored so every guy is looking through his phone for prey to suck on SO the slightest mistake, she is gone forever.
MIND YOUR CHOICE OF WORDS AND KEEP TO THEM.
99% of women process gifts as their love language, so don’t go promising her money while she hasn’t asked for it and when she reminds you of your own promise, you start ranting like all women like money.there are intelligent women out there who make out how a man’s personality is just by his choice of words.for example, a guy I met on Facebook promised me of some money to get some grocery for the lockdown, I told him not to bother but he insisted. A week later, he told me I have passed his text because he was looking forward to me asking him of the money he promised me himself, can you imagine that? Honestly, I gave him my piece of mind, there are guys who rant around ladies all in the name of texting them to see whether they like money or not, beloved! Women like money and men like women so stop saying what your mother and sisters have been doing and just keep to your wordS
DONT JUST CHAT, MAKE A DIFFERENCE
So one guy sent a snapshot of a guy and a woman who met on Facebook, dated, got married and had a baby. Interpreting it like he was there when the guy was giving her time when he was supporting her need when he was observing her love language when he was surprising her with a little gift even when he was not close.
I have come across a lot of people and can say a lot of people have made a lot of difference in my life.i have received a lot of support from people I have not seen personally, but has gone a long way to make difference in my life, so don’t just say sorry when she’s bold enough to say she is hungry, she doesn’t have data or she is not feeling well.
Find a smart way to find what restaurant around her and surprise her with food, get her that 5gh cedis data you can afford, get that your friend or brother to send her the drugs she needs and check up on her if you are out of the country.
Don’t do it for a woman, do it for your mum and future generation and she will forever keep that memory of difference.
Good luck!!
