Hey lovelies,
Trust me the chino smells awesome to know where to start from, I am sipping “cappuccino” lol am all hot up but we will caption this anyways.
In today’s articles, I am sharing something delicate with you guys, however, I want to know what you think of celibacy?
Well, in my opinion, Most celibacy encountering is for spiritual or religious obedience and health purposes.
To some religious rules, way of adding value to their personality, Building self-esteem but I kind of currently realized that it was just for self-competent and self-love.
In my previous article about losing my virginity, oh it rather about coming. I will explain how it took me a long time before losing my virginity. I was rich in my own way with pride. 5 years and counting in this journey and I might say, it’s been challenging, self-denying, taking one day a time and feeling the need to still advise myself.
I can be here blabbing and say that God has been there throughout every step of the way in my 5 years celibate journey. SO IF YOU ARE PLANNING ON BECOMING CELIBATE, THIS IS MY ADVICE.
ESTABLISH A STRONG SENSE OF FINANCIAL STABILITY
My orientation for loving someone was to be loved and loved back, money was less of my worries because I was owning my business as at age 13, being able to provide my basic needs at that young age never strick me to consider any man till age 22 when I run away from home, that was when I realized being loved by a man comes with financial responsibility. Thank God for some responsible men, I never asked or lacked anything on my first ever date, I think I prayed for a responsible man because I didn’t use to ask money from any man, talkless who I was dating because I thought to make money from men was prostitution. so before I made up my mind to be celibate years ago, I prayed for help and indeed God sent me not only help but also unimaginable favor. The love of money is the root of all evil they say, surely as a woman, when brookie set in, your next thought is”who among the guys I have dated or persuing me can help me financial, trust me the help you will get but freebies, am sorry.so establish a strong financial outlet in order not to be tempted by the love of money when celibate.
DON’T WATCH OR BE ADDICTED TO PORNOGRAPHY
I know what pornography is, way back from secondary school because am a biology student but watching it wasn’t my thing until my curiosity for finding my real orgasm sport(don’t ask me where?), some people don’t have an orgasm no matter how or ways they have sex and self-masturbation can help diagnose it, but don’t trade it for sex. Addiction, as I understand, is a situation where you do one particular thing continuously for satisfaction but regret afterward. Yes, regret(personal definition). The chain for addiction is satisfaction-regret and loneliness.
It’s a big struggle and challenging when you get addicted to something so seek counseling if you struggling with pornography or email us [email protected] to speak with our expert.
DON’T TRADE SEX FOR MASTURBATION.
God in his own infinite intelligence knows that companionship is the necessity for human life that is why he added sex to human life, not when you are not married people, that is fornication. So kuks, Are you saying you have not fornicated before and you are holy? I am sorry I am not holy, I use to be a sex champion but mighty hands just rescue me. I have come across men who enjoy their women masturbate in front of them and some those who frown against it. What am I saying here? Simply don’t batter trade sex with masturbation when you claim celibate.
AVOID TEMPTATION BY NOT VISITING MEN|WOMEN
It was through a few hours visit to a trusted friend that jeopardized my twenty-two years old self groomed virgin self. I don’t believe it when they say women are weak and vulnerable, they are not but some of us just surrender when it comes to sex depending on the situation and emotions.so if you are that emotional as some ladies give in to men lies when they claim they can’t control themselves because they love you and will have blue balls and pitifully give in to their desires. I practically understand that stage and you have to mature out of it.
If you know you are like that, then advise yourself from the kingdom of God is few meters away. lol, Stop visiting men or boys.
SPEAK OUT YOUR JOURNEY TO ANYONE YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH AS SOON AS POSSIBLE
The world navigates in the rule of “give and take”, yes give and take, even God gives us life and inhabit our praises, so how much more a mere man.
Men smile, waste time, waste money and gift out for a trade of sex. Sometimes they don’t even communicate their intentions verbally but still, get women to open up sex to them.
The earlier the better, speak out your journey to anyone you intend falling in love with, yes you can practically make up your mind to love someone because it all starts from the mind.
Be vigilant to those who claim to understand who you are and what you stand for as a celibate but still push you to do what you don’t want to do all in the name of love, some love IS foolishness.
MAINTAIN A STRONG MINDSET WITH THE WORD OF GOD
This should have been the first thing to consider just at the mention of celibacy.
The struggle is real and you need a metallic mindset to stand. Sometimes you fall in love with someone who doesn’t believe in what you believe in and that is one of the greatest challenges when you chose to be celibate.
I have been there severally and I as ask God why? I have dated someone who later got married to someone else just because you have decided to get married before sex or have sex when ready.
There is a wise saying that, “woman! Don’t remove our load of jewel just for a man to contain but you rather need a man with a heavy hand to be able to contain who you are.
On second thought, I realize, I value more than just sex and marriage.
The hand that will value and adore the inner woman in you and the lustful physiques that will pass with time.
THE WORD OF God is the strong weapon (Hebrew 4:12)
Fear not, for I am with you.
Don’t be afraid, for I am your God.
I will make you strong and help you.
I will support you with my right hand that brings victory. Isaiah 41:10.
