HOW TO BE CONFIDENT, SECURE AND SINGLE AT 30.
Society awaits your 30 years with a man or at least a kid or two in an African setting. Majority get privileged to fulfill those purpose demanded by society. But how do you face your thirties without a permanent job sometimes, a man to show or a kid?
Don’t panic, it normal. I have got you covered.
Really! You better get out there and get yourself a man, when at all are you introducing him to us? Who is Mr right and when is he coming?
In African society, it a crime or it’s spiritual, how sad to think of that. It is worse when you are jobless or not independent, they can literally make your life miserable to the extent of making you feel useless, insecure and lack confident being single at thirty.
But the question is? when did being single at thirty becomes a crime?
Shouldn’t one live life at her thirties when not marriage?
A woman is a diamond until the pressure of heat transforms her to something unpredictable charcoal.
Someday, I will be thirty with confident, secure and articulate, yes that what I will be in my thirties. I have seen a lot of marriages collapsing because of the pressure of numbers and what society thinks is the right thing to do “pressure” you to marry.
Trust me what my eyes see, my mouth can’t say all but I have this few tips on how to be secure, confident and competent at thirty.
So without further due, let dive inn…
SELF LOVE: According to kuks dictionary (my meaning to self-love), self-love is an intentional, self-conscious effort to constantly be in the right frame of regarding your spirit, soul, and mind of loving one’s self regardless. The word regardless can never be compromised when self-love is displayed, regardless of who you are, how rich, married or single, successful or not. All you need is self-love.
How can you demand love from other people when you don’t love yourself? Have you wondered why people get everything in life but still not happy within themselves? They have simply disregarded the essence of loving their own self without apologies. Everywoman front the part of her body she feels secured with, how can a woman hide all her curvy “ass”, breast” when she knows it her spotlight to attraction and happiness? This is same as loving yourself.
Self-love is infectious, trust me. Some men even attribute a woman who is loved by herself to be full of herself of which is not the case. They are simply insecure of themselves base on how you appreciate yourself because their job to make you feel that way. They feel more of a man when you depend on them for love. (it a secret)
What at all is love if you personally don’t love yourself?
SELF OR PERSONAL BRANDING: Have you wondered why every company topmost priority is branding? This is because customers mostly focus on what in the outside before considering what is inside. The same thing applies to you. How do people see you, how do you present yourself? How you present yourself alone can suggest the type of people you attract. As a single lady, your way of life or energy alone can detect how lonely and insecure you may be. The first impression matters darling, tightening the brand, your appearance, and body language is the major key.
Look your best elegantly, walk your personality and talk with confidence and maturity.
CAREER STABILITY: Career stability can also be financial freedom. Are your finances secured? Are you doing something for yourself? How creative can you be to attract monetary freedom? In most cases, more pressure is exulted on single people just get help from me, but is that the solution? My dear men now want industrious women, financial stability brings self-confident, competence and mental freedom.
EMOTIONAL AND PSYCHOLOGICAL STABILITY: Malleability is the problem of a lot of single women, they are easily convinced or influenced. The slightest mockery of being single makes them feel like they are the only single person alive with unnecessary tears.
You have to be emotionally and psychologically stable in order not to allow anyone to intimidate you. You need to understand that, men are not toffees in the market or dress you can just pick up anyhow anywhere, try it on and decide whether or not to buy. So in Gods own time, he makes all things beautiful. Your time will come but until then live life.
SELF CONFIDENT: In my own experience, your self-confidence requires both knowledge and self-courage. When fear is too strong, the genius is suppressed. I strongly urge single women who are hitting their thirties to take a risk, to be bold, to make their genius convert that fear into power and brilliance. It works for some and terrifies others, I have come to realize that, for most people, when it comes to the subject of confident, and they will rather play it safe.
I have had to answer field question like how like: how do you maintain all that confidence, why should I bother developing my confidence? Why should I become confident and I answer, just to have more options? You can be smart but not confident, bold to step out but not confident to walk, you can be knowledgeable to raise your hands up but not confident to express yourself.
Mastering your self-confidence add up to your options.
BE SECURED IN AND OUT: I consider insecurity as to my greatest fear when I personally diagnose in others, insecurity makes people less appreciative, more complaint, overpowering, jealous and overprotective sometimes.
Everybody has a particular part of his or her body that he or she is insecure off, fear or attitude.so they try to do things or become who they are not, just to cover their insecurity. But I always ask this question: for how long can you keep up with your insecurity? People live a pretentious life.
Single women, you need a man with big hands to handle our heavy jewel so don’t drop them down to make it lighter for them to carry just because you need a man to marry you. You will end up reducing yourself, thereby losing yourself.
Most often than not, people change their attitude to give some perceptions of who they are not, and I go like, for how long can your insecurity make you keep up with pretend?
Instead of hiding your insecurities through what you are not, rather channel your energy to another part of your life that you find your most security.
This article is dedicated to all my thirties single ladies out there.
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