Don’t beg for their time and attention anymore, the more you ignore me, the more I get used to being ignored, if you stop calling me, I will stop waiting for your call, if you stop sending me text messages, I will stop the habit of checking my phone all the time and the more you stay away from me, the more I will adapt to staying away from you, one day I will learn to live without you and move on. I don’t have to waste time on someone who only wants me around when it fits their needs because no one is really busy, it all depends on what number you are, on their priority list beloved.
2020 is here, hurray, my house looks bright because we had a new painting and renovation. Awesome! my wardrobe is still on point because I dashed out all that needed to and organized all I wanted, it was stressful though but don’t you think there is a bitter pill you need to swallow that you are ignoring? The so-called self-acclaimed loved ones who only show up in their spare time? How do you declutter such people in 2020?
we have clean our homes, wardrobe and body forgetting our minds and vital things that emotionally disorganized all the hard work we put in decluttering our surroundings? It’s time for that difficult task, new year resolutions. A lot of people don’t believe in it but I do just because I do realistic, honest and attainable resolutions. Although life has a way of massaging us differently and things happen so we are going to deal with emotional sappers.
I was speaking to my sister the other day about people, relationships and I was amazed at her revelation on how people give only their spear time to you when they want to….yes you heard me right!
The so-called friends, family and “loved ones only give you their free or spare time when desired, she added with a quote.
B. Every one only gives you out of their spare, so watch it! There are a few quotes I will touch on as the year unfold.
Don’t be surprised. I had to sleep over this quote, eco it in my brain and have deep thought until something made it right this morning.
So a friend called me today after two weeks. I am fully aware of pressure and stress you go through when planning an event…he did not even tell me he had reached his destination, meanwhile, I told him to brief me on the happening, before I continue, I want you to know that 2020 is a year of divine favor for me and I don’t know if you…
So if I need someone to prioritize me, love me, care about me as claim then I have to deal with my maker not the people who give me their spare time when I bearly don’t need it. long story short he called me this morning but I didn’t pick up, I didn’t pick the call not because I am angry but because I don’t need his spare time at this moment or morning..in fact, I was sleeping comfortably reflecting on Gods goodness in 2019 in my life…
Many women or even men give priority to people who only give them spear time.
There are some people in your life who even text back yearly or reach out when they have a spear time.
Until that spare time comes they ghost you…
It is rather sad that we end up investing more energy into such emotional suckers because at one point in time they pretended they cared enough.
We put more priority on them because we didn’t see what they were trying to achieve..
What they mostly plan to achieve is to put you in that dilemma of emotional roller coaster…when you climb up, emotionally expecting them to be at the other side of the hill, to cheer you up, they suddenly vanish…leaving you in a mentally and emotionally confused state.
Don’t go mad early with what am about saying, beloved, they don’t see a glimpse of what is happening or the emotional distress you are going through….
In my candid opinion don’t even ask them why they suddenly stop calling, text or why they have suddenly appeared in your life because you rather add salt to injury when he or she is BS. Know how they react to remarks or rebukes before you dare ask such questions.
Hands up if you can relate?
We are in 2020 babes, we are not going to flip our eyes over people who only give us their spear times and come back all pretending like you are their priority.
All nonsense in 2019 just got barred last night, in 2020 we are not going to rush to pick calls from people who ghost us when they feel their stress is worth swallowing themselves and come back all ok, pretending there was no course or any issues .we want to be part of all their journey,being it good or bad with effective communication and committed energy. Besides life is all about sharing the good, the bad and the ugly with people you love or you care about right?We will only listen to what they say, encourage them as our humanly right and focus on ourselves.
We will not waste our precious energy on such people who only give us their spear time…we cant kill ourselves.. can we?
Babes look sharp in 2020, being it a man or woman..remember this quote again. A. you owe no one and no one owes me….. Except they owe in specific areas by choice.
Can you imagine that this same person shows up after a long pulse and play the victim?”Eii last you don’t share a lot about yourself, eerie you have dwaged me.Can you imagine this, the same people that have pushed the pause button still ask such a question.
The reality is that they know what they have done but it just time for them to return with their spare time and demand the same flow from you as before.
Think through this carefully, why give your precious time to one that can only give you their spear time…its energy-sapping.
Take care of yourself, have time for yourselves and what you care about.
Don’t give your precious time at your expense but whenever you can, reach out whenever you can just for the sake of building relationships.
Put a premium on those who put premium on you.
You shouldn’t be always available for someone who doesn’t even ask you how are you doing.your life will be better when you realize that, it is better to be alone than chase people who don’t care about you.
Don’t be someone’s downtime, spare time, part-time or sometimes .if they can’t be there for you all the time then, they are not even worth your time.
